The What's Pi$$Ing You Off Thread

[Never had any say Panda]

What pisses me off.. Now this probably doesn't apply to everyone but I'm gonna rant..

Gone are the f*cking days where it was okay to have a bad day at work..

These days now as a bloke it seems like we are expected to be at work as soon as the sun is up, work our arses off... but then come home.. be completely happy and listen to how horrible the day was from women who stayed at f*cking home looking after a kid. Now to be perfectly clear I'm not asking to be treated like a king because 'I'm the breadwinner' or any of that sh*t.. Just currently my day goes as follows.. Wake up, Get kid up, get kid breakfast, get self ready, get kid dressed, drink a coffee I intentionally made only luke warm so I can get it down fast, get out the door and get to work. At the moment work feels like I'm being dragged through sh*t on a day to day basis.. By the time I finish and get home, I'm exhausted. But as soon as I walk through the door, BAM kid! Don't get me wrong I love the little guy, but coming home time coincides with cranky evening kid. So straight away.. Kid who wants to be played with to be entertained.. Play with kid, cook dinner, eat dinner, bath kid, sit on couch with him to watch the hoot nightwatch song.. brush his teeth put him to bed. All this time listening to a bloody woman tell me how tough it was looking after the kid all day.. NO f*ckING OFFENCE BUT YOU ARE THE ONE WHO WANTED TO BE A STAY AT HOME MUM! AT NO f*ckING POINT DID I SUGGEST THAT IT WAS A GOOD IDEA!

If I even suggest the idea that I have an evening off I get 'I LOOKED AFTER HIM ALL DAY YOU WANT ME TO LOOK AFTER HIM TONIGHT TOO!'

BLOODY HELL WOMAN! He sleeps for 3 hours a day.. You text me every day after lunch and say you're gonna have a nap now.. FFS!! I wish I got a 3 hour nap every god damn day. Instead after or during lunch I drag my arse into meetings with clients to guarantee they keep paying money so I stay employed.

What makes it worse is once the little tacker is in bed.. On goes the computer and I'm back into work. Or like tonight.. Rapidly clean the house and then get on the computer to get into work but be so furious that I need to vent on a car forum first.

I'm the first to admit that I need a break from everyone so that's why I have golf and probably why I golf by myself most of the time lately. But that's maybe once a fortnight if I'm lucky..

/RANT

[k31th]

I can't empathize as no wife/kid but I can sympathize, at least. That situation does suck quite a bit...

I just know you can't apply logic to women. If you do, you're in for a bad time.

[Kimberley Scott]

Get if off Ya chest mate.

I'm driving my granddaughter back to her mum in Townsville from Brissy.

Pulled up in Rocky for the night.

10 hours it took. I did stop a few times. For a while at ginger world were we had fun.

Get her in motel.

Take her for a walk as she has been in car. That turned into carry.

Take her to dinner Maccies.

One mouthful. She needs to go to toilet. WTF do I do with all the food and wallets and phones.

Pack it all up try and carry to car. Box falls apart.

Get another box my Big Mac was cold. Scoff it. Bundle get back in car get back to motel. Toilet shower brush hair Put her in Jammies.

Then she wants to watch nickelodeon.

I feel the pain.

[tab]

That's pretty farkin ordinary Panda.

Spare bed here if you're ever in need of respite mate...doesn't solve the problems though I guess.

[Rab]

I know how you feel Panda - spent far too long thinking that was a "normal" way of life/relationship.

Kids (3 and a toddler), brekkies, lunches dressed and ready to school before she even got out of bed and off to work for me, with her left with the toddler.

Come home - tidy, laundry, dinner (when she gets off the couch from her afternoon nap), washing up, kids to bed, grocery shopping then getting grief coz it's now 10pm and I finally get a chance to relax and sit in the couch instead of heading to bed. - that was pretty much a normal day.

My favorite was the time that I was told I get an hour and a half to myself each way on the commute into town and back and thus had it easy - she never got that time to herself.......

And f*ck me if there wasn't hell to pay if I hung back at the office for extra time or completing outstanding jobs.

Got to the point where if I mowed the lawn over the weekend it was part of some selfish plan to get myself out of the house :S

[Bizkets is Drunk?]

Im nearly in the same boat panda. Some nights I come home to dishes, tea cups and sh*t all over the place. Cloths left in the hall way. Just f*cking lazy Ness. My wife works 15 hrs a week. Nearly have to beat her with a stick to get some motivation out of her. All I have to say on my behalf to the wife is FARK YOU FACEBOOK. NOW we have a kid it just keeps getting better.

finish work get home. Can you look after him I have looked after him all day. Dont even get a chance to put my bags down some times.

that's it. Forum boys weekend.

Hire a drag strip, heaps of piss & loud music.

[Never had any say Panda]

It's not even just about me mate..

I really just don't understand when there was this massive phase shift in women.. Where staying home suddenly became such a burden on them? THis isn't all girls bearing in mind.. But so many of them seem to think they are martyrs for staying home and looking after kids..

I'm first to admit that I couldn't do that.. I need to be constantly mentally stimulated.. Staying at home talking baby ain't gonna do it for me..

Farking facebook alright..

Had that argument once with the wife.. Lost my sh*t at her and said 'What's the first thing you do every morning?' Her answer was get out of bed.. I said 'Bullsh*t.. The first thing you do every single morning.. Is check facebook incase anything may have happened while you slept'..

While she checks facebook.. I'm out of bed trying to get as much done before the kid wakes up..

Edited 12/02/15 11:12 AM by Never had any say Panda

[k31th]

Everybody's life has it's battles. Discomfort/displeasure is all relative to the person it's affecting.

[Never had any say Panda]

True that buddy..

[Mrs Jeturbo]

Ok so I will answer the un asked question from my opinion which may or may not make u feel better.

I am of the opinion that being a stay at home full time mum is a waste of a usually healthy personality which can almost never be recovered again.

Panda....

Women who chose to stay home with their children are usually the women who also replace their love for their husband with the love they have for their child. Ipsofacto ... Lack of consideration for their partner and zero consideration on what they might need or want.

Women who are isolated to a child as their main source of contact turn into social lepers in many ways. Not usually to anyone who doesn't spend a fair amount of time or know them, but to all close there is an astronomical change.

All of a sudden this person you used to laugh with every day and made u smile, the person u chose to commit to for the rest of your life with, is now a Kunt ... Who won't show u any affection, intimacy, care, consideration and definitely no sympathy.

I am not defending her in any way but look at it from her perspective.

She has gotten up eventually after you have done majority of the morning routine, she's probably still tired because stay at home mums tend to not be the most physically healthy even if they're skinny, they're usually vitamin deficient and lacking in general health, and add to that the fact that once u feel in a grumpy or depressed state you often feel perpetually tired.

Then she has put up with a screaming child who, yes makes her smile and laugh, but also makes her want to cry her eyes out coz he wont leave her alone for enough time for her to even go to the toilet in peace.

Then she doesn't get much social contact from anyone, even the catch ups with friends aren't enough to suffice healthy mental interactions which would be enough for her to remain happy because she has to go straight back home and be a mum again.

Then when her husband, the guy who leaves her alone all day to endure this torture in solitary confinement(the house), gets home, all he wants is for her and this kid who drives u nuts, to leave him alone for a minute.

After spending all day apart, he wants more time?

I mean, even though he plays it up I'm sure all he does is sit on a damn computer all day and type crap. Sure he has to be a little stressed but geeze, I couldn't even take a crap today without a baby up my ass.

And then he's gonna ask me a question about the hour work that didn't get done today because I wanted to enjoy playing with our son and then have a nap because I am so tired all the time from giving all my energy to this little human being. And when he asks he's totally going to be doing it in a condescending and irritating manner, because he judges me, he thinks I do nothing but I do so much!!!!

^^^^

SEE THAT MAKES NO SENSE

But a psychological state of mind doesn't hve to be logical or make sense to u!

When you have no concept of what it is like to go to work and be mentally and physically exhausted, which happens once mums choose to stay at home, they then become unaware of the difficulties of daily life in the real world and become so consumed with their own life in their bubble.

A lot of women are inconsiderate of their partners because they have the unintended perception that it's the husbands fault their alone all day, which logically makes no sense, but again, logic and women and psychology don't mix.

From her perspective she is probably very physically tired because of not actually doing anything physical etc. then it's a perpetual cycle of tiredness grumpyness, no love for their significant other, then it becomes ridiculously hard for her to even contemplate how your day was, or even bother asking.

It's very hard for people to self analyse ... Especially women.

Being home with a child is mentally exhausting.... And even though working is too, I believe it is an essential in maintaining balance in a persons mental health.

My advice, get her a job.

Women were never ever meant to be stay at home mums,

My mum is the best mother in the world, but the day she became a great mother, she became a terrible wife.

Panda I am not sayin. Her actions are justified coz they're not.

But if the mountain won't come to Mohamed then u gotta walk at least some of the way there, and by that I mean have u tried talking to her about how u feel? And I don't mean a man talk where u go in and tell her like it is, I mean a lady talk where u pretend to understand the stresses she's under and pretend to be sympathetic then tell her how your feeling.

Yes it's technically manipulation, but whatever works really to keep your sanity.

If she won't get a job, or try and make changes then just trade her in for a new model hahaha