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I can`t really understand why quite a number of ppl are suggesting for the OP to see a GP, he`ll just be given a script.

Mate, if you are serious about reducing your anxiety you ought to consider seeing a Clinical Psychologist, that way you will learn strategies how to cope and manage your anxiety much better,fark taking a pill you don`t learn anything (potential side effects/can take weeks to kick-in etc) having anticipatory anxiety is quite common, however if you feeling it will impact on your ability to perform at your new job go see a Clinical Psychologist they can bulk bill/medicare rebate.

I have had numerous clients whom I have treated for a range of anxiety disorders quite successfully without medication,if you can avoid the medication (acknowledging some ppl benefit greatly from medication as an adjunct to seeing a Clinical Psychologist), then goodo. Positive thinking, you`ll be fine might take a couple of weeks to sus everything out.

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For new people...

Be early

Listen carefully

Be polite

Ask if your not sure

Do a good job not a quick job

Stay busy

You dont have to be the best, quickest, most knowledgeable person.

It pays to be nice to people, I find the best people to work with are the ones that are reliable, even if they dont know alot. If they work when told and they dont complain then the rest comes with time. I would rather work with a good bloke who is willing to learn then a f*ckhead who knows, or thinks he knows it all.

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Anxiety is one of the black dogs bitches. Prolonged anxiety is a clear signal something is not right.

We all suffer stress in some form or another. We all deal with it in some form or another. It's when you cant deal with it. When every thing is wrong. Nothing seems to be going right. You think your friends are not your friends. Your family does not love you. When you start hating yourself. that's when the dog has a solid hold.

And yes your average GP might just give you a pill. But there are a lot out there that don't. A lot who care more. And I have never been to one that just gives you a pill and takes your money.

I have been to clinical psychiatrists and physiologists. Only a psychiatrist can write you a script. A physiologist tries to heal through therapy. Sometimes you need both working together. I suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. Two years of different SRS's, different doses. And always the same result. I can't take them as my body rejects them. It just depends on the dose as to how long it takes before the cup runs over. Three years I could not leave the house. I did not speak to any family or friends. Anyone at all, besides my councilor and phyc.

Good counseling and good friends...very tolerant friends and family. There is no quick fix. It takes a long time to like yourself again. Or forgive yourself.

Physical fitness is a big one for me as well. If I am physically down I can go mentally down again quite easy.

Many things can cause it. Stress, anxiety, drugs and alcohol. Trauma, physical injury, relationship. Or even just failure.

Unless you have been there you just cant understand it. Friends and family will tell you they love you and what a great person you are. And all you hear is that you are a loser, a fool. And the tougher bloke you are. The more likely that you will have to hit rock bottom before you will seek professional help.

So don't ever think I'm a tough guy. I can deal with it. because you will suffer the worst.

Anywho OP I hope after all this shoite you are not swiinging form the ceiling. Joke. Life is incredibly ironic.And you have to have a very ironic humour to get through it sometimes. I really hope for your sake you are pissing yourself laughing after your first day at work. Thinking back and feeling like WTF was I worried about.

If not mate as you can see..... WE CARE

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When you are at work concerntrate on work.

Never take your work home.

I've seen many bosses who can't leave work,that's all they know, even when they are at home. Yeah they make some good dollars at the expense of their family life, health and well-being.

Just listen, you will work out who to listen to within the first 5 minutes of a conversation, don't be a smart arse, and never hold a grudge. Don't worry, keep off the prescriptin pills unless you want to become dependant on them.

I'm sure you'll be fine, it's normal to be a little nervous before starting a new job. I've also found having something both healthy and exciting packed for lunch makes for a better day.

good luck mate

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I can`t really understand why quite a number of ppl are suggesting for the OP to see a GP, he`ll just be given a script.

Mate, if you are serious about reducing your anxiety you ought to consider seeing a Clinical Psychologist, that way you will learn strategies how to cope and manage your anxiety much better,fark taking a pill you don`t learn anything (potential side effects/can take weeks to kick-in etc) having anticipatory anxiety is quite common, however if you feeling it will impact on your ability to perform at your new job go see a Clinical Psychologist they can bulk bill/medicare rebate.

I have had numerous clients whom I have treated for a range of anxiety disorders quite successfully without medication,if you can avoid the medication (acknowledging some ppl benefit greatly from medication as an adjunct to seeing a Clinical Psychologist), then goodo. Positive thinking, you`ll be fine might take a couple of weeks to sus everything out.

Most blokes will go past the point of being able to control it with "only" seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist...

A mild sedative (ie. Small doses of valium) will help to calm the anxiety when it's at it's worst... It stops adrenaline, which is the feeling that makes you feel anxious... People with anxiety problems have adrenaline running for long periods of time... To the point where it's non stop... And they can't switch it off... Valium helps them to calm down...

Also some people can't get through it without medication. Seretonin levels in their brain drop and they need medication to "balance" out the low levels... It can also be hereditary...

Believe me... I know all about it! My dad was in Vietnam and I suffered as a child with a crazy mother f*cker as a dad... Watched him punch the f*ck out of blokes (ie 4 or 5 LOL) at footy matches cause one spilt his beer... Amongst other things... Putting his head through the bathroom wall after falling over my mum as he was standing on the bed in the middle of the night whilst "trying to shoot noogies from the helicopter"...

Since he has been seeing a psych and on medication he is a new man... Loves playing with my daughter and would do anything for the family...

As Buf said... Seek professional advice... It's not weak to want to gain control of your life... And it can happen to anyone! Even the richest, most intelligent people in the world... Not even money can fix you... You need to seek help and guidance...

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guys have an update, waiting till the new year to see if I have a job to goto at all. Its in the 4x4 industry one of the large chains where I will be a trainee fitter, well that's the goal anyway.

I also have depression, it hits occassionally, but generally with me its anxiety I worry nearly to death sometimes, its a real good thing that I have people who actually understand what im going through instead of assuming just normal anxiety not actual fear anxiety.

thanks for the replies my friends, will need some advice when I get my xr6t, wanted it for so long now!

have a great christmas and a happy new year.

drew.

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Just read this thread and I think its absolutely brilliant that people can come out and talk about their personal experiances. Men's Mental Health is becoming a real issue in our society and its time to tackle it head on. I really would like to commend everyone who had positive input in this thread as it is very encouraging..

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Getting people to talk about it is half the battle mate, depression is a horrible disease and largely incurable unfortunately.

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Completely agree with above. I've had issues with depression and anxiety over the years, and its a terrible illness to many.

All I can say is that Swisse vitamins, heaps of water, and heaps of exercise worked for me when I had depression - not saying it will work for everyone of course.

ps: Buf-Phoon - brilliant also that you could be so open and helpful. Credit to you :beerchug:

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thanx mate. A lot of blokes sad and alone.

Should just put their paws up. Not an easy thing to do !

Denial is easier

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