Rootster Just a large member member Silver Donating Members 3,125 Member For: 16y 2m 25d Gender: Male Location: sydney Posted 26/02/10 02:23 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 02:23 PM I have a family friend who is a chronic drinker...Been done DUI about 5-6 times..He lives in his car..and really hasn't a job......I have known him for about 12 years and seen him deteriorate over that time...My fear is that he will kill someone on the road..or his 8 year old son who he drives around under the influence...So how do I help him.... he has tried counseling..rehab and other forms to try and give it up...but to no avail....His parents have given up hope on him..and really has no one to turn to...I fear he will die from a alcohol related disease...sooner than later as he is in his mid 30's...So do I report him to police...and they lock him up for a while in jail....where he has a chance to clean himself up..or I'm I making it worse...As I see this as really the only way he might see the light and kick it....and also not seeing his son might help things as well....Please feel free to add to this....as I do want to give him up but only if I think it will help him.....Cheers rootster... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brandonn Donating Members 2,304 Member For: 16y 3m 26d Gender: Male Location: port hedland Posted 26/02/10 02:39 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 02:39 PM really comes down to what kind of person u r.I guess that depends on if u value others/his life more or less then your mates livelihood... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
turbotrana Member 2,586 Member For: 21y 9m 11d Gender: Male Posted 26/02/10 03:23 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 03:23 PM You are in a very difficult situation. I was/am in a similar situation with a tenant and thinking how was I going to get this guy off the road. I thought about disconnecting the car so it wouldn't work. His car ended up breaking down and he cant afford to fix or get another. This tenant is in a bad way, depression, alcoholic, about 48y/o. Basically no rent increase for the last 5 years as he was working but got mentally sick and ever since on the dole. From talking to him found out he was a bit of a POTHEAD in his younger years. I think this is what phucked him mentally and I know as soon as I kick him out the bloke will be forever homeless. Professional help without family support is unlikely to work so unless you are prepared to put in a bit of time with him its gonna be hard to help your mate. Goodluck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ralph Wiggum Moar Powar Babeh Lifetime Members 19,323 Member For: 19y 3m 18d Gender: Male Location: Perth Posted 26/02/10 03:38 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 03:38 PM Jail may not be his best option, but i dare say its better than you being a pallbearer at his (and possibly his sons) funeral if (when??) the inevitable happens.He may well see you as a dobber but thats a hell of a lot less to deal with than blood on your hands (figuratively speaking) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mat Donating Members 2,930 Member For: 17y 8m 28d Gender: Male Location: Caracciola Karussell Posted 26/02/10 04:10 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 04:10 PM (edited) I have mates who did drugs during highschool and they are fried these days. In and out of mental hospitals, living in some weird care arrangments etc. Try as you might, some people simply cant or arent interested in being helped.I dont have a kid (that I know of at least!) but from what I can gather, that should be all the motivation a parent needs to put a roof over their head and food on the table. Doesnt sound like he cares much for his young bloke. If that's the case why would he care about himself?I'd dob him in, and make sure you do everything in your power to ensure his young blke doesnt turn out the same way Edited 26/02/10 04:11 PM by Mat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Spin_ Donating Members 695 Member For: 16y 11m 5d Posted 26/02/10 08:14 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 08:14 PM Don`t waste your time trying to reason with him, he won`t see the error of his ways.You could nark him in, but unless they lock him up you know he won`t stop doing it.But seriously that's about your only option. If the local coppers are aware of him, maybe they`ll take an interest him. Maybe they won`t. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest XR09 Guests Posted 26/02/10 09:08 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 09:08 PM (edited) Tough call.I was in a similar situation, but with a mate on drugs.I had no idea what to do with or for him. I ended up going to our local church. ( no I am not a goddy and far from it) I went and saw the local priest and he gave me a number of someone he knew at mental health. As strait as we think priests are they do have to deal with this kind of stuff a lot.Now usually mental health wont touch someone until they are a threat to themselves or someone else. So this makes it tough. Thank god for the priests help.Luckily she came around anyway to interview him. He went off like a mad man when he found out who she was, and she called the cops, and they took him up to the hospital and they checked him in.Unfortunately this went on like that for a few years. He would go in and straiten up. Come out and get a job and move ahead. Then about six months later he would start to slide again. Back on drugs, not coping with life. having lots of bad luck.It takes a lot of time and effort. At least you care. No matter what you do, it sounds like the police will be involved soon anyway. Edited 26/02/10 09:09 PM by XR09 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
turbo.vixen Hey guys, Tab is here... Oh i feel sick Lifetime Members 8,459 Member For: 16y 7m 18d Gender: Male Location: sunshine coast Posted 26/02/10 09:31 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 09:31 PM Nick follow my instructionsTake him out to the pub and get him to buy you a drink, then when its time for another drink dont buy a round, just get yourself one. By this stage (if he is a true alco) he should be pretty pissed off because he has lost a drink, he will start cracking the sh*ts and giving you evil eyes, this is when you need to confront him. Walk up to him and start arguing with him and turn it into a massive argument, you might feel bad about the next action but its whats needed to be done.... flog the sh*t out of him. Not only will he have a nice warm bed and meal for a week but maybe they will see how bad his addiction is and try help him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RHR BOOST Moderating Team 5,698 Member For: 21y 4m 5d Gender: Male Location: Southern Highlands NSW Posted 26/02/10 10:13 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 10:13 PM You already know my answer nick Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RegSpec Cruise Control 1,417 Member For: 18y 13d Gender: Male Location: Macksville NSW. Posted 26/02/10 10:26 PM Share Posted 26/02/10 10:26 PM (edited) Nick follow my instructionsTake him out to the pub and get him to buy you a drink, then when its time for another drink dont buy a round, just get yourself one. By this stage (if he is a true alco) he should be pretty pissed off because he has lost a drink, he will start cracking the sh*ts and giving you evil eyes, this is when you need to confront him. Walk up to him and start arguing with him and turn it into a massive argument, you might feel bad about the next action but its whats needed to be done.... flog the sh*t out of him. Not only will he have a nice warm bed and meal for a week but maybe they will see how bad his addiction is and try help him Geez Jamie....you sound like your speaking from experience mate.... Nick....a moral dilemma for sure mate....but I'd be making any decisions based on the welfare of the young boy because he's the one with everything to lose here...... His old man has chosen his path in life and unless he wants to help himself....there's really not much you can do about it... It'd be a real shame to see the young bloke go down the same path as his so-called role model.... Look at the poll......speaks for itself you know..... Edited 26/02/10 10:36 PM by BionicXR6T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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