Ive Been Dating This Bird For A Few Mths

[Blonk]

  plonky said:

She's gone man

Your're being played or a sucker

Don't ever cop that crap

Women are full of their own self importance so she needs to go and look after this bloke and you need to go ignore her and find someone else.

Not worth it...no matter how many good things she does or how much you want her..ask her if the letters F O mean anything to her  (al la Smokey and the Bandit Movie)

Listen to the Plonksta

[sutty]

  flukeyluke said:

  TurboDewd said:

  phantomchic said:

Need more details..

such as are you just "seeing each other"... or have both decided to be "exclusive"..

or simply could be that she is trying to make you jealous.... and test your boundaries

end of the day .. If you don't like it  Speak up and Say so... its your life and up to you what you allow to happen

.Clearly this other guy mainly saw M for sex. I dont know this other guy and have no reason to trust him.

that's a good point. You know what he wants.....

They had a 1 month fling and she's cooking him dinner for his birthday?? WTF

Were they friends for a long time before this or did they meet, have a fling and split up? If this is the case then it sounds like SHE wants it too.

[MRDOHC]

  BlueXR6Turbo said:

Tell her that you're going to have dinner with your ex. See what she says to that!

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My thoughts exacty

That would sort her out .... if she cares and stops to think then something may yet be there, if she dont care ... do same !

[Mondie]

Bad bad bad.

The fact that she thinks this is ok is not right, who knows what other misguided things may happen in the future. Time for a trade in

[OwnaXR6T]

The only way this situation would be good is if the ex was a GIRL lol

[ducatijb]

Get down to the newsagent and get her a farewell card

Plenty of fish in the sea

[DBOSS]

  WhiteTee said:

goooone  Mate never pay second fiddle to anybody for what ever reason,

Life is too short to be worrying about it.  When in doubt throw it out

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Dont wait till she flicks you kick her to the kerb before the dinner and she's GOOOOOONNNE

[TurboDewd]

Either shes naive or has bizarre notions of what would get a guy jealous. last nite she says she doesnt like jealous boyfriends. Im like, what normal guy wouldnt, it is very unusual to invite an ex over who you simply saw for 1 mth. She knew the guy previously thru mutual friends and still keeps in touch which I havent minded. but dinner at her place is odd in my books and I dont like it.

Reverse the situation and show me any woman who would tolerate this malarky!

[Guest mercurysteve]

sounds dodge doen't it really? Persoanlly, I would create a space, be a bit evasive and see if I even missed her after that. If not, CYA, if I did then maybe I'd think about it a bit harder.

Easy for us all to comment as we are not emotionally involved, but I'd just leave her alone for a week or three, but that's just me. It would also help her establish if she misse you too I guess, clear up her feelings.

Good luck with it anyways.

[sixfan]

Dump the b**ch, yeah, right...if you didn't care that would be easy eh?

Not so easy if you do.....hence your dilema

From my experience, I'd say she's unsure and keeping her options open, this does NOT mean she intends to "fool around" with this other fella and I'd take it as a good sign that she has actually told you about the dinner.

If you make a big deal out of this, just as likely she'll go off and see him without telling you.

Does this other bloke know about you? (not that he'd care probably, but if she hasn't told him there is some meaning there)

Women can be very cold hearted and calculating when it comes to relationships, its a genetic thing. Males are definately the romantics of the species.

My advice:

Tell her you don't think it's appropriate and it bothers you, If she goes ahead with the dinner, go out drinking with your mates and don't wait up for a phone call. If she's gonna F@ck around on you, best to know now, If not then she won't and she will appreciate the trust you have shown.

Careful not to acuse someone of something they haven't done! You could put the idea in thier heads