I've been married for 26 years.
what is this understanding you talk of ?
Sripes, its been a looooooooooong time since I was single (1986 ) but I can remember a time I was afraid I might miss the boat.
found out there was no boat.
If you want to have children, don't fret mate, men don't have a biological clock.
Trying "too hard" can be a turn off for some
This girl you talk of is probably not the one for you, (BCB matchmaker at your service) when things get too complicated or difficult to organise a simple date then things are already set in motion for failure.
For relationships to work there needs to be a large percentage of your lifes activities that fall into place with each other without to much effort or else interest quickly fades .
there is 1.8 million people in Perth, get out amongst it when you are in town and don't be so focused on one particular girl.
most importantly , have fun with your friends, the successful relationships that I personally know about started from groups of friends getting together and having fun.
one thing I DO know about women, they like to have fun.
that's right, I went to the school of stating the bleeding obvious (but sometimes the obvious passes us by without realising)