Nick, so when my dad ran out on my mum, leaving her with the responsibility of selling the house (to be split 50/50), paying off all the furniture loans, and raising three kids on her own (without her even having a job, because he insisted she stay home to raise us while they were together, as her working "wasnt worth it") that was my dad being raped by the divorce settlement/family court? He had to spend a small portion of his wage on child support, and he spent the rest on buying things for his new woman. All of mums money was going towards raising us.